I am so pissed off...
Dec. 20th, 2003 05:44 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
fairyruneI don't get angry very easily at all. Annoyed, yes. Angry, no. The following letter in yesterday's newspaper made me VERY angry:
Dear Abby,
I am writing because my 12-year-old daughter, "Dorothy," is pregnant for the second time. Due to our religion, we do not believe in birth control or abortion. We kept the first baby, but we're afraid if we keep the second, Dorothy will continue to have pre-marital sex. Should we abort this one or let her have this baby, too? Please reply soon.
-Concerned Parent in Texas
Dear Concerned,
Whether your 12-year-old daughter should carry her second child to term is not a decision I can, or should, make for you. Because of her tender age, there could be medical risks involved. Take your cues from her OB/GYN.
It should be clear by now that your daughter is, and will continue to be, sexually active. Unless you intend to keep her under lock and key, she must be educated about sexually transmitted diseases and birth control. Since you consider using birth control a sin, please consider that it's a bigger sin to bring children into this world if you cannot educate and support them emotionally and financially.
PS You haven't mentioned how old the father(s) of these babies are. If they are more than four years older than Dorothy, she could be a victim of statutory rape, and you should notify the police.
This pissed me off like you wouldn't believe. So I wrote my own letter to Abby:
Dear Abby,
Your response to the parents of the twelve-year-old girl who was pregnant with her second child shocked and horrified me. What has our society come to if our children are having children, and all we say is, “Use protection next time”? At the age of twelve, that girl is still a child, and cannot possibly be emotionally, mentally, or physically mature enough to be having children of her own. Therefore she should not be performing the one act that can create children.
You advised that her parents should accept the fact that their daughter is sexually active. I disagree very strongly. She is still a child. Her parents are still her parents, and are still responsible for her well-being. They have every right to say, “No, you cannot have sex,” or “No, you cannot date older boys,” and yes, Abby, they can keep her under lock and key. They have to make the rules to protect their child. In my opinion, they are just as responsible for that little girl’s pregnancies as she is.
Speaking of responsibility, the father of that girl’s baby should be forced to show some. I do not care how old he may be, he needs to see that his actions have consequences as well. That baby is as much his as it is hers. He should be paying child support, and if he is not old enough to get a job, his parents should pay it. They are responsible as well, for not teaching their son not to get twelve year old girls pregnant.
If that girls parents are really that opposed to birth control, they need to make their daughter stop having sex. That is really the best form of birth control.
That family needs to get counseling right away. The parents need to learn how to say no to their little girl, and the girl needs to be told that she should not be having sex.
Sincerely,
Concerned Student in New York
I think it works. Any comments?
Dear Abby,
I am writing because my 12-year-old daughter, "Dorothy," is pregnant for the second time. Due to our religion, we do not believe in birth control or abortion. We kept the first baby, but we're afraid if we keep the second, Dorothy will continue to have pre-marital sex. Should we abort this one or let her have this baby, too? Please reply soon.
-Concerned Parent in Texas
Dear Concerned,
Whether your 12-year-old daughter should carry her second child to term is not a decision I can, or should, make for you. Because of her tender age, there could be medical risks involved. Take your cues from her OB/GYN.
It should be clear by now that your daughter is, and will continue to be, sexually active. Unless you intend to keep her under lock and key, she must be educated about sexually transmitted diseases and birth control. Since you consider using birth control a sin, please consider that it's a bigger sin to bring children into this world if you cannot educate and support them emotionally and financially.
PS You haven't mentioned how old the father(s) of these babies are. If they are more than four years older than Dorothy, she could be a victim of statutory rape, and you should notify the police.
This pissed me off like you wouldn't believe. So I wrote my own letter to Abby:
Dear Abby,
Your response to the parents of the twelve-year-old girl who was pregnant with her second child shocked and horrified me. What has our society come to if our children are having children, and all we say is, “Use protection next time”? At the age of twelve, that girl is still a child, and cannot possibly be emotionally, mentally, or physically mature enough to be having children of her own. Therefore she should not be performing the one act that can create children.
You advised that her parents should accept the fact that their daughter is sexually active. I disagree very strongly. She is still a child. Her parents are still her parents, and are still responsible for her well-being. They have every right to say, “No, you cannot have sex,” or “No, you cannot date older boys,” and yes, Abby, they can keep her under lock and key. They have to make the rules to protect their child. In my opinion, they are just as responsible for that little girl’s pregnancies as she is.
Speaking of responsibility, the father of that girl’s baby should be forced to show some. I do not care how old he may be, he needs to see that his actions have consequences as well. That baby is as much his as it is hers. He should be paying child support, and if he is not old enough to get a job, his parents should pay it. They are responsible as well, for not teaching their son not to get twelve year old girls pregnant.
If that girls parents are really that opposed to birth control, they need to make their daughter stop having sex. That is really the best form of birth control.
That family needs to get counseling right away. The parents need to learn how to say no to their little girl, and the girl needs to be told that she should not be having sex.
Sincerely,
Concerned Student in New York
I think it works. Any comments?
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Date: 2003-12-20 03:22 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2003-12-20 06:06 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2003-12-20 06:56 pm (UTC)Its along the lines of "If it wasn't for my horse..."
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And yeah this whole deal is messed up. Just isn't right :(
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Date: 2003-12-21 05:03 pm (UTC)Lewis Black is right though... if you think about that statement long enough you will have an anuerism.
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And I HAVE thought about that statement without getting an aneurism. Perhaps it won money for her to go? And maybe she sold it and it paid for her to go?
I am currently owned by 11...oops no make that twelve...I just bought another one about three hours ago...horses so I guess these things make more sense to me ;)
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Date: 2003-12-21 08:33 am (UTC)RENNAISANCE ANSWER
NOT JOKING A CHASTITY BELT IS LONG OVER DUE
IT PAINS ME TO HEAR THAT WE LIVE IN A WORLD THAT"PROTECTS" THE CHILD'S RIGHTS FROM PARENTS "DISLIPLINE"
YET WE ALLOW THAT CHILD TO SUFFER THE PAINS THAT FULL GROWN WOMEN DREAD
Re: RENNAISANCE ANSWER
Date: 2003-12-28 09:47 am (UTC)Re: RENNAISANCE ANSWER
Date: 2003-12-29 06:45 am (UTC)Even if she had been physically prepared to concieve a child, she would not have been married to a boy her own age. Her parents would have found a much older man for her. Boys that young cannot care for themselves and a family. I agree with our esteemed Wyrd Cousin. Get that child to a nunnery!
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