He's probably a bit disgusted by the idea of a black hand touching the inside of a white thigh. Lots of people are. But he recognises this and keeps it quiet and tells himself off a bit when he catches himself thinking badly about it. He has black friends and genuinely treats them politely and kindly and has them in his home and genuinely cares about them on one level. But he knows that there is a social reality that people less restrained than him will hate the mixed race (just a reminder- there's no such thing as race apart from as a social construct: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bmtubiCfYjY ) family and especially persecute the children of it. So, out of a genuine belief that he is doing the kindest thing he discourages those unions.
This is in fact WORSE than someone who just hates people for having a different body type. This guy, in his head forgive his black friends for being black. He makes exceptions for them, in his head. And he thinks, he genuinely thinks he's not racist for doing this. He won't even recognise what he's doing. He has no idea that he shouldn't. It has not sunk into his head that if his black friends are genuinely equal then no exception, no special treatment would be necessary. That if he did this his response to the awful truth that the children of much darker skinned and a much paler skinned parents will be called half breed and mongrel and whatever else would be to sit the couple down and talk to them about how they will be coping with this, in the short and long term. Instead he does a hateful thing- he excludes. He does a hateful thing and believes with all his heart that he is being loving.
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He's probably a bit disgusted by the idea of a black hand touching the inside of a white thigh. Lots of people are. But he recognises this and keeps it quiet and tells himself off a bit when he catches himself thinking badly about it. He has black friends and genuinely treats them politely and kindly and has them in his home and genuinely cares about them on one level. But he knows that there is a social reality that people less restrained than him will hate the mixed race (just a reminder- there's no such thing as race apart from as a social construct: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bmtubiCfYjY ) family and especially persecute the children of it. So, out of a genuine belief that he is doing the kindest thing he discourages those unions.
This is in fact WORSE than someone who just hates people for having a different body type. This guy, in his head forgive his black friends for being black. He makes exceptions for them, in his head. And he thinks, he genuinely thinks he's not racist for doing this. He won't even recognise what he's doing. He has no idea that he shouldn't. It has not sunk into his head that if his black friends are genuinely equal then no exception, no special treatment would be necessary. That if he did this his response to the awful truth that the children of much darker skinned and a much paler skinned parents will be called half breed and mongrel and whatever else would be to sit the couple down and talk to them about how they will be coping with this, in the short and long term. Instead he does a hateful thing- he excludes. He does a hateful thing and believes with all his heart that he is being loving.